Ep.122/ Anxious & Avoidant: The Intellectual Intimacy Trap
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This is something I’ve seen over and over again — both in my clients and in my own life.
That feeling of: “We talk for hours… we connect so deeply… so this must be something real.”
But then…You still don’t feel fully seen. You still feel a bit alone in it. And you can’t quite explain why.
In this episode, I break down the difference between:
Intellectual connection (feeling mentally understood) vs. Emotional connection (feeling emotionally seen and met)…
And why anxious–avoidant dynamics often get stuck in that intellectual space.
I also share a very real reflection from my own past relationship, where we understood each other logically, but struggled to meet each other emotionally… and how that ultimately impacted the relationship.
Because here’s the thing: You can feel deeply understood… and still not feel emotionally secure.
And long-term, that gap matters.
If you’ve ever been in a connection that looked good on paper, felt deep in conversation, but still left you feeling unseen, this episode can help explain this disconnect.
