Ep.112/ What Does Relationship Compatibility Really Mean?
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After last week’s episode on pacing yourself in dating, so many of you reached out with the same question: “Jess, what does compatibility actually mean?”
It can feel so confusing when the sparks are there, but you’re not sure if the deeper alignment really is. I’ve been there myself—pulled in by chemistry, only to realize later that our values, needs, or goals just didn’t match up. It’s such a common experience, and one that can be both exciting and heartbreaking.
So in this week’s episode, I wanted to slow things down with you and really unpack:
What compatibility actually looks like in a relationship
Why it matters so much more than chemistry
How different attachment styles—anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and even secure attachment—can start assessing it in real time
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering “Am I drawn to this person because we’re truly aligned, or because I just feel a spark?” this episode is for you.
Compatibility ensures that you’re not just choosing someone who excites you today, but someone you can actually build a life with tomorrow.
