Ep.115/ Healing Your Attachment Through God with Gretchen Costanzo
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In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with Gretchen Costanzo, a certified Integrative Attachment Coach and creator of the Living Connected Method, to explore what it truly means to build a secure relationship with God and how transformational that can be for both your healing and your human relationships.
We talk about how God can become your steady rock — the ultimate secure base — the one presence that never wavers, abandons, or withdraws. In attachment theory, a secure base is what gives us the safety to explore, love, and grow. And for many, that source of safety is found not in another person, but in a higher power.
When we learn to anchor our worth, identity, and belonging in God’s unconditional love, we begin to release anxious striving, soften avoidant walls, and rest in the knowing that we are already held, seen, and chosen. This is where true security begins — when your sense of safety no longer depends on someone else’s consistency, but on a love that is unchanging.
We also explore what it looks like to date from a place of spiritual security and emotional grounding, how faith can rewire our attachment patterns, and the practical ways to invite God into your healing process.
Whether you’re rebuilding your faith or simply curious about how your relationship with God shapes your attachment style, this conversation will meet you right where you are — with compassion, curiosity, and hope.
