Ep.106/ How Anxious Attachment Can Lead to Selfish Tendencies
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Have you ever been told you're "too controlling" or that you put "too much pressure" on the people you care about?
If so, today’s podcast episode How Anxious Attachment Can Lead to Selfish Tendencies might just hit home.
I know... “selfishness” isn’t a word we love hearing, especially when we feel like we’re the ones always giving, chasing, caring. But what if some of that giving is actually rooted in control, fear, and a deep need for reassurance?
This episode is an honest reflection of how anxious attachment can quietly turn into self-focused patterns—something I’ve personally experienced (and still work on).
Inside, I talk about:
How anxious attachers unknowingly make relationships all about their needs
The rigid “shoulds” that create pressure and push people away
How to tell the difference between wounding and genuine need
What it means to love from your secure self, not your survival self
This one’s tender, real, and full of loving accountability. If you’re dating, in a relationship, or just navigating the wild terrain of healing, I hope this gives you a powerful perspective shift.
P.S. This work isn’t about shame—it’s about radical honesty, deeper connection, and creating space for the love you truly deserve. 💛
